Do You Leave or Do You Stay?
Young Jeezy’s song “Leave You Alone” says it all. ”She said I know you bad, but I want you back, She said makes me so sad that I gotta leave you alone”
Have you been in this situation before? You are with a guy who you KNOW isn’t right for you yet you stick around hoping that things will change? We have no desire to leave this person who has “potential” when the truth is we should run like the wind!! The worst is when you have kept the person around so long that you have now become attached!! So even though you no longer see any “potential” …you just feel obligated to stay.
Maybe these questions can help you out…
1. Can you see yourself with this person 5 yrs from now as they are right now? (eff the potential! Look at them for who they are today!)
2. Does this person really respect you. (Do they listen? Do they take into consideration the things you need to make the relationship work?)
3. Does this person have drama that you don’t mind dealing with? (friendship drama, baby momma/daddy drama, family drama, etc.)
4. Does this person make you feel secure?
There are so many other questions to ask yourself. Those are just a few. We can get so caught up in the “right now” which isn’t too bad until you start to see the bigger picture of what you really want out of life.
We would love for the person that we are dealing with to walk up to us and say “I ain’t shit. You don’t need to be with me.” Right? But in real life that is not going to happen. In real life, we are selfish. Even if this person knows that they have no business in your life they will keep YOU around because of how YOU make them feel.
Walking away is never that easy. You can have 44,000 signs that tell you to stay away from this person but somehow you can justify why you stay.
Just like a drug habit that you decide to kick to the curb…the desire to return will be there but you have to focus on what is best for you.
Trust me. I felt my intuition but still stuck around only to end up getting “mind raped”. I couldn’t blame anyone else but me for staying in a situation that I KNEW was no good.
I shouldn’t say that walking away is hard. It is only as hard as we make it really.
Take it from me. I stayed and lost my entire identity. You can leave now and maybe only lose some gas money.
If you know in your heart that the answer is “Leave”…DO IT.